Ask A Dude The Round Table: Dude Motivation- What Gives!?

Your favorite Witches hosted a cyber sit down with several of the opinionated (right or wrong) fellas in our cipher and grilled them to the white meat. We're hoping these discussions can start a dialogue (In the comments section please), and foster a greater understanding between the genders. Now that you have met our dudes... let's chop it up!

Brewchie Q: OK, Dudes, so I met this guy at a BBQ one summer, and he was in full court press mode. Amazed that he met someone sooo awesome (his words) and we had so much in common. And he was doing that creepy but sweet gazing thing you fellas do when you’re smitten, tending to me the entire night, the whole she-bang. Then he never called. Nothing nada.

Apparently he had a girlfriend that he forgot about while in my company.

That part I get, totally- I rock. ;-)

But here’s my question: If you know full well, you are in a situation that precludes you from properly pursuing a woman (married, gay, going to Iraq, etc). Why do you go full force with the full court press anyway, only to have zero or lame follow-thru? What’s the point!?

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Mr. Crab: Men always tell themselves they go into situations with the best intentions, but its not really best intentions, its actually selfish intentions. Now, the way you say full force, its sounds a bit relative to the mechanism the force is derived from. Most times, all a guy need to give is enough to blow out a birthday candle. Ask Steve McNair what happens when you pull a Hurricane Katrina out on a young braud (yes, braud)....You lose every time. (Brew note: ahhh... thank you Metaphor Mike..)

Rev Real: Again, speaking from when I was single, for the guys it’s the thrill of the chase. Someone once said the sexiest thing a woman can say is “no”. There is some primal fulfillment gained from pursuing someone that has convinced herself (but not you) that she wants nothing to do with you, but then through a combination of game, pre-date car detailing, slick talk, and sexual acrobatics you convince her you’re the greatest thing since pre-Colt 45 Billy Dee Williams. The real fun then is convincing her at that point that you’re bored of her and watching her flip the script and over-extend herself to try to keep you. “The tables have turned, Darkness!”

SUpreme: Um, I guess I’m the wrong one to ask that. I have women initially mad at me cuz I choose to NOT do that to them, knowing I’m in a situation that won’t allow me to give her my all and full attention that a relationship deserves. You might try asking a scrub or no-good man that question…

Brewchie: Well I wouldn’t call him a scrub, but he IS gross... Gross Dude, what’s your call?

Gross Dude: I'm a little guilty of this when is comes to distance. I think myself (and a lot of fellas) are just automatically programmed to go hard all the time. All fellas play to win, want to win.. We don't really go half-assed at things we enjoy doing (Brew note: and they enjoy doing the ladies!) ...till we think about it a little later. So if it’s that first day we meet, first week or whatever, then yeah, full court. When reality sets in... then its best to walk away.

So what have we learned? Some men... definitely not SUpreme, are just jerks.

Take the blow to your ego and shake it off, NEXT!