Ask A Dude: Eleven WhoAres Grinding...

Brew Chick Q:

So...you're getting murried..aw that's nice, 'yay love' and alla that. Your boys, looking out for YOU (yep, nothing in it for them at all...) decide to throw you a bachelor party...with ELEVEN strippers (hell, why not make it a dozen, heck a bakers dozen?!)...but I digress.

Do you tell your fiancee, what's on the agenda? Or is it none of that chick's business?

And please explain to women why you feel it is imperative to get shit faced/hump greasy sweaty, most likely generously badly tatted, strange ladies (and see them do side show vaginal tricks) before getting married?

Discuss.


PHLIP: If I was getting married, then I would at least tell her what we were doing, and given that I would be the model citizen that I would have to be to even let it get up to getting married in the first place, I would have nothing to worry about.


Why? Bachelor (and Bachelorette, don't try to front and act like men are the only ones) parties are supposed to be about someone's "last night as a free man/woman," and the generally accepted (and safest, actually) way to go about that is a drunken night out with your friends and the services of a skrippah or 15. So long as you are adhering to the "build your appetite where you want, but eat at home" rule, then no rules are broken. If she can't trust him or he can't trust her to not fuck the fuck up that night, then they should probably rethink why it is they're getting married in the first place.

THE CASHER!: Nope. You don't tell. That's one of the man codes. Women don't know how to let stuff go, and if you tell, you may hear about it whenever she feels like throwing that trump card.
A bachelor party is "supposed" to serve as your last hoorah. You're supposed to get as wild as you can, because once you say "I do", your life changes. For better or for worse is a matter of opinion. And usually, the stripper does what you know your wife won't do. The wife's pictured as the beautiful bride. Sweet and pure on her big day. It's supposed to be set around romance and love, even on the honeymoon. The stripper though...straight butt naked ass fun.
So let him live it up and have his last night. He may never have another with his boys, especially

BIANCA: So, marriage means he can't see his friends anymore? No wonder the divorce rate is so high, jeez! (*Well except for his friend name Ced.. NEVER under any circumstances trust your man's friend, if his name is "Ced". It's a rule I stand by, Trust me).






SUpreme: First off - NO. I wouldn't tell my wife about the details of the party, only that we were having one. No matter what you say or how you frame it, it's only going to feed her fears, doubts and/or insecurities about the party. And in the case of SOME women - they'll even try to crash it.
As far as why you have the party - no man can speak for every man's motivation. In my experience...the party is usually more fun for the groom's boys, though I'm not trying to say the groom doesn't have fun. It's like their way of saying "This is IT! After tonight, the only booty you'll ever see is HERS." So, the organizers tend to make the party over-the-top and take it to extremes that no man tends to see or go through in normal life, to give him the "last hurrah" before forsaking all women for the rest of his life.
Parties can go from one extreme to the other. I've seen parties where the groom left after a half an hour, but the party went all night. An d then I've seen...well, I won't get into THAT. I'll just say it IS up to the groom how much active participation in the fun he experiences. And not EVERY bachelor party is evil or has the same activities

Bianca: Personally, I say let your man do what he wants (he will anyways). #kanyeshrug...

But, I swear, I'm sending this here dime as a gift for my next to be married, homie.

You're welcome.