Ask A Dude: Wifey vs. The Hot Chick

Dear Witches of the Brew, Can you please ask one of your Dudes to give his insight on the following comment from one of my dude friends?:

Jill Scott is a "wifey", build a nation, deep stimulating conversation having type of woman that you" need" in your life.
Kim Kardashian is camcorder ready, sex shop shoppin, lawd have MERCY, 7 days of the WEEK, get it! But that's about where it ends.

I mean who says a woman be all of that? Why settle for 'segments' ?

Signed,

Way to Put Us Inside a Box

Bianca: It's been a long day, let's get straight to it, Ask A Cash, thoughts?

Ask A Cash: That's the reason men search for so long. They know what they need on a spiritual, mental, nurturing level. But the flesh can be so weak...and when they see a woman that's too thick to not look at, they want that too. Problem is, most women that are physically beautiful, have nothing to offer on the inside. Personally, I think that it's because they've been raised in vanity. Someone always making that the focal point of their existence with nothing to offer on the inside. AND most of them act like bitches. So you'll have your down-to-earth girl who is dope on a number of levels vs. your vixen. Deep inside, we want the best of both worlds. But nowadays, that's hard to find.

Bianca: I don't think it is that hard to find though. I know a LOT of single, fun, attractive, slutty (with their man), supportive, kind chicks and a whooooole lot of cornball , smug, hot mess looking married broads. Splain that to me! SPLAIN IT! And isn't 'down to earth' just code word for ugly?

Ask A Cash: That one is easy: Ego. Every man has an ego. When you're walking in the mall and you see a busted, Mfu-fu, bra showin, tittie saggin, toe nail chipped, backboard ass havin girl with a (as sista's say it) FUINNEE man, it's because that chick catered to his ego. And most "pretty women" are all about themselves and self-centered. Ever hear a man say,"She makes me feel like a man"? Sound a little bitchass??? Well, not necessarily. It's that brother, however brainwashed he may be, telling you that she catered to his ego.
Men do a lot of chasing, and pretty women make you feel like you're "unworthy" at times. Men also hate to be told "no". So here comes Busted Betty...and not only does she chase HIM, but she'll do whatever this mine wants that he knows wil probbaly get him slapped if he ATTEMPTED to ask the pretty heifer. Next thing you know, he's married to the ugly chick and he's looking at himself like, "I can't believe I'm hittin this broad...oh well. The lights go off for a reason..." Catch-22, NOW all the pretty women notice and start throwing it at him.
Ya bring it on yourselves.

Bianca: Wow, you know, there are so many mixed messages that women receive, is there anything that we do right?

1. Don't pursue a man...b/c he doesn’t want what's easy.
vs.
2. Pursue a man...they love it.

1. make a man treat you like you are worth something.
vs.
2. treat HIM like a king.

Do we bring it on ourselves or are we simply CONFUSED?

ASK A Cash: There are consequences to your actions, like there are to ours. If you play hard to get, be prepared for that man to move the f*ck on. It's the same women complaining about men, who passed on a number of good men because of their very own EGO. You ain't all that Boo-Boo! And what you won't do, another chick will. Men don't choose ugly women, we give in to them. It's like running a race. You run and run and run after this same woman, and just as you're starting to fatigue, the ugly woman is standing on the side with a cool cup of water for your relief (i.e. See "Clean-up Woman"-Betty Wright).

"Pursue" is such an ugly word in your vocabulary. But there's nothing wrong with letting a man know that he's appreciated or "liked". At least enough for him to continue "pursuing" you. Give him a bone, for god's sake.

If you treat a man like a King, there's a good chance that that man will treat you like a Queen. Take off your cool from time to time. It should help you get what you want.

If I had to answer that last question, I'd say majority of you are confused. Just don't get mad when you see that "FUINNE" man cuddled up with that busted broad when you showed him every sign that you didn't want his ass.

BIANCA: Guess I better re-up on the batteries.