He’s Into You, But He Still Dumps You

I came across this piece via a male friend I went to school with… and it really made me think about my little relationship history. Certainly, as women, we’ve been on the receiving end of a good dumping. I know I have, although most of my dumpings usually result in he stops calling then tells me months later that he's got a new lady friend, or worse, is getting married. But enough about me.

Here’s one Cosmo writer’s take on why guys dump the girls they dig:

The Timing Is Off
Women get serious when they meet the right man. Men get serious with whomever we happen to be dating when we're finally ready to settle down. That means after every other aspect of our life is in order — whether it's finishing grad school, finally pulling down a good-size paycheck, owning a car outright — or when our friends start dropping like flies (that's guyspeak for getting married). But if you catch a guy before he hits that magical stage of his life, then he's liable to bolt.

We're Not Finished Playing the Field
Men are natural-born one-uppers. If there's a possibility of upgrading what we already have for something better (that'll make our friends drool), we say, bring it on! So we wind up always wondering if you're really as good as it gets.

We're Fixated on the Worst-Case Scenario
Blame our married friends who took the plunge before us, but many single guys are hyperaware of what could go wrong down the road.

Even if we're crazy about you now, we panic that you'll pack on the pounds, want sex only once a month and nag us day and night. So we secretly flag certain things we're scared might be a harbinger of bad things to come.

We're in Like, Not in Love
It's harsh but true. In fact, it's probably the most common reason we bolt. Just because a guy likes you a lot isn't a guarantee that it will evolve into love. And we're surprisingly intuitive when it comes to figuring out a girl's potential on this front.

So why do we invest any time in a relationship that we know will ultimately end? Because we're able to live in the moment for a while and chalk it up to a good experience. But once you show that you're way more into us than we are into you, we'll dump you out of guilt.

We're Too into You
Just when you thought it was all bad news, here's a hard-to-fess-up admission: Guys are protective of their emotions. Translation: We're scared spitless of being hurt. So, if we start to feel like we're getting into a situation where we'll be destroyed if you dump us, we might launch a preemptive strike and yank the plug first.

So, what’s your call? Does this have any relevancy? Have you been on the receiving end of a dumping just when you thought things were going well in your relationship?

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